WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

They say women are complicated and don’t really know what they want. Women are said to have long books of complications. Women are complicated but at least they can be seen through easily.

There are so many books and articles on how to understand a woman but few on men. I think men are more complicated than women, which is why there are few solutions on how to understand them.

A man will say he doesn’t want his girlfriend to care too much but has a problem if she tends to be carefree. As a girlfriend, you are the first to say good morning to him and the last person you talk to before sleeping. His need is your need and you always want to be in his good books but then, he complains you care too much. Caring for him might not be an act, so you go through a lot just to not really care again, and now he complains or starts to act up. WHAT DO THEY REALLY WANT?

A man will tell his girlfriend he doesn’t like to be asked too many questions, especially the question “where are you?” but that’s the first question they ask when they call. Most men don’t like questions not for any genuine reason but for the fact that they can’t be consistent and also makes them feel they are being too open and plain with you. His girlfriend stops asking questions and he complains she acts too naive and again carefree. Amazing Creatures right! lol!

WHAT THEY REALLY WANT?

TO FEEL LIKE YOUR HERO

Every man wants to feel like the hero, to save the day. They don’t want to be your Clark Kent but your Superman. Sometimes, give them that opportunity or create that opportunity for him to feel he saved the day.

ACCEPTANCE

                               

Men also need some loving. Because they NEED to feel that when they stack the dishes in the sink like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love them anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind. Unconditional support from a woman is what will snap them out of their boyish behavior and inject them with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept them as they are, who they are, will they want to become someone better.

NOT TO BE LEFT IN THE DARK

Many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat, or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave men in the dark. They don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with them.

THE C-WORD

                      

Effective Communication! Without it, relationships are built on sand. A man wants his partner to communicate directly not give clues. Spell out what you want clearly, don’t beat about the bush or give attitude and expect him to understand. He is not a soothsayer to read your mind. If you want them to want to do the dishes, OK, then tell them. Explain and model how you would like them to communicate back.

For many man, communication is not a speciality. They need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet them at logic, they will match your emotions, hopefully. But they need you to tell them.

TO HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES

Men may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But they really want their partner to have their own life. Really, men want their partners to have their own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course your husband or boyfriend want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like them to be a part of, but they want you to have your own identity.

                            

Because if you have nothing that is yours, the relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces your man to get his own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs, put your relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is his. And together, you’ll ride.

All in all, my advice to all women is: DO EXACTLY WHAT A MAN SAYS YOU SHOULD NOT DO (not the bad behaviours and attitudes, but that cute thing he discourages you from doing). Whatever you do that he complains about, actually gets to him and makes him soft, therefore, he doesn’t want to seem vulnerable. Don’t worry, he will stop complaining.

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