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Tuesday, 15 August 2017

LOVE WILL SHOW YOU EVERYTHING

Farizana Savage August 15, 2017 Soulmate

I used to think love was how you feel about someone. I thought it was when you feel butterflies in your stomach and you can’t breathe!

I thought love was when you couldn’t stay a day without your partner or go a day without thinking about them.

I thought having sex with that person was love or will make you feel loved.

I thought love was when you feel and think about someone to the point that you can’t resist or you are too obsessed over the person.

I used to think love conquers all, because that is what they make us believe in movies but you see is not like that in real life.

From the time we were born we are inundated with the belief that love is a feeling and that when you find “the one” you’ll sense it in your gut and be overcome by an undeniable sense of knowing.

If love is not a feeling, then what is it?

Love is action. Love is tolerance. Love is learning your partner’s love language and then expressing love in a way that he can receive. Love is giving. Love is receiving. Love is patient. Love is kind.

Love is selfless. Love is hopeful. Love is respect. Love is support.

Love is recognizing that it’s not your partner’s job to make you feel alive, fulfilled, or complete; that’s your job. And it’s only when you learn to become the source of your own aliveness and are living your life connected to the spark of genius that is everyone’s birthright can you fully love another.

Love is many things in different colours, in different circumstances. You do not have to love, you choose to love. I think, it is when you feel you are falling out of love that is when you are really beginning to love. Real love does not have its roots from the feeling of love, instead when you are lacking that feeling.

You don’t have to encourage it, or welcome it, but you better learn to suck it up from time to time. We have mythologized love to such an extent that people are no longer prepared for the realities of long-term relationships. We are taught that it is good not to compromise, not to put up with anything we don’t like, not to sacrifice our own beliefs for anyone or anything.

Yet compromise and sacrifice are the cornerstones of marital love. Sugarcoat it in anyway, if you respect and support each other without any expectation of something in return or if each person is primarily valued for the relationship itself- not for their job, status, appearance, success or anything else, then give yourselves some love.

Love is a grace we give one another.

Love is sometimes effortful, but it’s not based on someone else’s effort.

Love is what happens when we open our hearts and allow the love that naturally lives inside to flow forth.

Love, by its very definition, is unconditional.

Love is a gift.

Love is why we’re here.

Tuesday, 11 July 2017

THE SIMPLE THINGS

Farizana Savage July 11, 2017 women

When I first met you, it was magical even though you hit my car, you ruined my birthday cake and my birthday!

You gave me your business card and I bluntly refused and you insisted on a lunch date, with that sweet smile I accepted.

We started off as friends, you were kind, caring, loving, generous and a gentleman! You bought me gifts every time we met.

You made promises to protect and love me even more! Promises upon promises. I never frowned or cried. Your presence was just joy unspeakable, I smiled each day just knowing I will hear from you or see you at my door with roses and chocolates!

Then we got married! Marriage was suppose to be a blessing but that blessing turned into something else.

Do you even remember all the promises you made? All of them?

You stopped buying gifts for me! Those little things made me smile but you stopped doing them! Now my beautiful face can't remember the last time it smiled.

Opening doors became a big deal to you! I never asked you to start but I fell in love with that too. What came over you? Cause being with you now feels like I'm living a lie.

Ohhhh! The worse part of all was when you made it seem you always cooked for me. I had a man to help me when I was tired or sick but I swallowed your lie when I realized you only bought the food from restaurants!

I picked an attitude to frustrate you just to know how you made me feel cause I was tired of complaining and talking! I got soo tired, unwanted and depressed! Depression moved me to eat sooo much and grew fat. But still didn't see anything wrong with what you were doing to me!
Now my heart aches when i see you!

Love, love makes you make difficult promises, they may seem simple and small but giants in their own way!

I worked things out with my husband and I am the voice for women going through what I went through.

Don't stop reminding him of what he is doing wrong! Don't stop praying! Don't stop talking the word!

Things will fall in place with time!

See also WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

Thursday, 6 July 2017

WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

Farizana Savage July 06, 2017 women

They say women are complicated and don’t really know what they want. Women are said to have long books of complications. Women are complicated but at least they can be seen through easily.

There are so many books and articles on how to understand a woman but few on men. I think men are more complicated than women, which is why there are few solutions on how to understand them.

A man will say he doesn’t want his girlfriend to care too much but has a problem if she tends to be carefree. As a girlfriend, you are the first to say good morning to him and the last person you talk to before sleeping. His need is your need and you always want to be in his good books but then, he complains you care too much. Caring for him might not be an act, so you go through a lot just to not really care again, and now he complains or starts to act up. WHAT DO THEY REALLY WANT?

A man will tell his girlfriend he doesn’t like to be asked too many questions, especially the question “where are you?” but that’s the first question they ask when they call. Most men don’t like questions not for any genuine reason but for the fact that they can’t be consistent and also makes them feel they are being too open and plain with you. His girlfriend stops asking questions and he complains she acts too naive and again carefree. Amazing Creatures right! lol!

WHAT THEY REALLY WANT?

TO FEEL LIKE YOUR HERO

Every man wants to feel like the hero, to save the day. They don’t want to be your Clark Kent but your Superman. Sometimes, give them that opportunity or create that opportunity for him to feel he saved the day.

ACCEPTANCE

Men also need some loving. Because they NEED to feel that when they stack the dishes in the sink like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love them anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind. Unconditional support from a woman is what will snap them out of their boyish behavior and inject them with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept them as they are, who they are, will they want to become someone better.

NOT TO BE LEFT IN THE DARK

Many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat, or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave men in the dark. They don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with them.

THE C-WORD

Effective Communication! Without it, relationships are built on sand. A man wants his partner to communicate directly not give clues. Spell out what you want clearly, don’t beat about the bush or give attitude and expect him to understand. He is not a soothsayer to read your mind. If you want them to want to do the dishes, OK, then tell them. Explain and model how you would like them to communicate back.

For many man, communication is not a speciality. They need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet them at logic, they will match your emotions, hopefully. But they need you to tell them.

TO HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES

Men may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But they really want their partner to have their own life. Really, men want their partners to have their own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course your husband or boyfriend want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like them to be a part of, but they want you to have your own identity.

Because if you have nothing that is yours, the relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces your man to get his own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs, put your relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is his. And together, you’ll ride.

All in all, my advice to all women is: DO EXACTLY WHAT A MAN SAYS YOU SHOULD NOT DO (not the bad behaviours and attitudes, but that cute thing he discourages you from doing). Whatever you do that he complains about, actually gets to him and makes him soft, therefore, he doesn’t want to seem vulnerable. Don’t worry, he will stop complaining.

Friday, 2 June 2017

SOULMATE VS PARTNER

Farizana Savage June 02, 2017 Soulmate

Am I not funny enough to be with and really, Am I that boring? How do you want me to feel? We have been together for two years! We have made love, we have hated, we have fought, we have loved, we have wished we never crossed path and our hearts wished to stop beating when we kiss.

Through all these, we still love so hard. We never hope to give up anytime soon even when it seems hopeless.

My partner is boring! We only chat a few times in a day, we hardly call each other and our voices are lost in each other’s memory. I wonder what keeps us together?

We hold each other’s heart, our memories run through the mind of our eyes!

The nicely packaged person, too good to be true or even exist, there is the bad side and the good but the good always overshadows the bad, I feel it’s pretence because he is bad as far as I can see, a confused personality. Blind in love that you can’t feel the fire burning too high, can’t even feel the heat. Sometimes in the mood and mostly not in the mood. Anger, fear, bitterness, sweetness, love, all sort of mixed feelings, but we are made for each other.

My soulmate wears a dress of an angel, bright and white as snow. Always smiling and cracking jokes. Seeing each other brings a spark of fulfilment and accomplishment to our world, we play and mostly laugh all the time. Why are we not together? Why I’m I wasting my time with someone who is always serious, no jokes, no laughter.

We are right for each other. We understand each other and the bond we share is sharper than a two- edged sword. Always complimenting each other like the very first time we met. All the good things needed in a parcel. The chemistry is always great.

Not all that glitter is gold. Not all intimacy, connection and chemistry is love.

You are either a partner or a soulmate. One out of a million can be both.

Who are you, A partner or A soulmate?

Who do you prefer to be with, A partner or A soulmate?

Choose carefully…

SAVAGE RHUB

Tuesday, 15 August 2017

LOVE WILL SHOW YOU EVERYTHING

Tuesday, 11 July 2017

THE SIMPLE THINGS

Thursday, 6 July 2017

WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

Friday, 2 June 2017

SOULMATE VS PARTNER

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