LOVE WILL SHOW YOU EVERYTHING

I used to think love was how you feel about someone. I thought it was when you feel butterflies in your stomach and you can’t breathe!

I thought love was when you couldn’t stay a day without your partner or go a day without thinking about them.

I thought having sex with that person was love or will make you feel loved.

I thought love was when you feel and think about someone to the point that you can’t resist or you are too obsessed over the person.

I used to think love conquers all, because that is what they make us believe in movies but you see is not like that in real life.

From the time we were born we are inundated with the belief that love is a feeling and that when you find “the one” you’ll sense it in your gut and be overcome by an undeniable sense of knowing.

If love is not a feeling, then what is it?

Love is action. Love is tolerance. Love is learning your partner’s love language and then expressing love in a way that he can receive. Love is giving. Love is receiving. Love is patient.  Love is kind. 

Love is selfless. Love is hopeful. Love is respect. Love is support.

Love is recognizing that it’s not your partner’s job to make you feel alive, fulfilled, or complete; that’s your job. And it’s only when you learn to become the source of your own aliveness and are living your life connected to the spark of genius that is everyone’s birthright can you fully love another.

Love is many things in different colours, in different circumstances.  You do not have to love, you choose to love. I think, it is when you feel you are falling out of love that is when you are really beginning to love. Real love does not have its roots from the feeling of love, instead when you are lacking that feeling.

You don’t have to encourage it, or welcome it, but you better learn to suck it up from time to time. We have mythologized love to such an extent that people are no longer prepared for the realities of long-term relationships. We are taught that it is good not to compromise, not to put up with anything we don’t like, not to sacrifice our own beliefs for anyone or anything.

Yet compromise and sacrifice are the cornerstones of marital love. Sugarcoat it in anyway, if you respect and support each other without any expectation of something in return or if each person is primarily valued for the relationship itself- not for their job, status, appearance, success or anything else, then give yourselves some love.

Love is a grace we give one another.

Love is sometimes effortful, but it’s not based on someone else’s effort.

Love is what happens when we open our hearts and allow the love that naturally lives inside to flow forth.

Love, by its very definition, is unconditional.

Love is a gift.

Love is why we’re here.