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Monday, 4 June 2018

Crushed Fantasy

Farizana Savage June 04, 2018 Uber

Wandering in the streets of Osu, beating myself up of how careless I could be.

Three hours ago, I thought I had it all figured out but I guess I didn’t start my day well.

I woke up with excitement , prayed and quickly dash out for an interview. The interview went well and I was soo excited about my new investors. I couldn’t wait for all the documents to be finalized. With excitement, I decided to call my best friend, Tsiwah for some ice cream to celebrate.

Tsiwah and I have been friends for over ten (10) years. She is my ride or ride. A single entrepreneur and very ambitious.

We spoke till I got a taxi to quickly meet her up at Pinkberry. The taxi moved from Papaye heading towards Labone. I was so excited that I couldn’t wait to share my joy with my best friend.

When we got to KFC, I decided to cash some money at the nearest ATM. I quickly rushed out of the car and went straight to the machine but it was out of service like any typical four out of five ATMs, I turned and the taxi, my hand bag and heels were all gone.

Oh Lord of Mercy and compassion, my ruined day had just began. All this happened so fast. No money to pick a car, This left me frustrated in the middle of Osu. All I had left was just me and my phone. Ohhhh Yes, talking about phones, It clicked my mind to request for Uber and pay with my card or mobile money.

The Uber arrived in about five minutes and I sat in like a Queen with no cash, lol. Oh my God, manna from heaven, how did you find yourself behind the wheels. The Uber driver was finneeeee. I checked my makeup and breath , just to be sure I was good to go. We had a pretty good chit chat throughout the journey till I got to my destination.

When we got to Pinkberry, Tsiwah had left and I had no money to pay the Uber driver. But I thought I had money in my mobile money account and even on my card. Everything seemed so weird and abnormal. The Uber driver offered to take me home for free and pay him some other time.

I thought that was amazing and anyone could hardly find such drivers lately. Some drivers will insult you and think you got all that planned out.

I had no option than to hop back in for that free ride. We had an amazing trip back to my house. He was funny, a picture freak and hey before I forget, he was using an iPhone X. Hahahaha, it felt like meeting a prince in disguise, finding the perfect bride.

We finally reached my house and we had to say goodbye. “It was great meeting you”, i said and added, “hey, next time I meet you, I will dance with you”. We hugged but it felt weird again, like something way too heavy on me. The next thing I heard was Jackie’s voice.

Jackie is my niece. She is 2years old and she is the most adorable and smart kid I have ever seen. My room is the first place she comes when she wakes up. Her voice was becoming too loud in my ears, I opened my eyes and there she was in her pyjamas.

Seriously, that whole mixed up feelings day was just a dream? I smiled and hoped to dance with him anytime I really see him, like in the movies.

THE SIMPLE THINGS

Farizana Savage July 11, 2017 women

When I first met you, it was magical even though you hit my car, you ruined my birthday cake and my birthday!

You gave me your business card and I bluntly refused and you insisted on a lunch date, with that sweet smile I accepted.

We started off as friends, you were kind, caring, loving, generous and a gentleman! You bought me gifts every time we met.

You made promises to protect and love me even more! Promises upon promises. I never frowned or cried. Your presence was just joy unspeakable, I smiled each day just knowing I will hear from you or see you at my door with roses and chocolates!

Then we got married! Marriage was suppose to be a blessing but that blessing turned into something else.

Do you even remember all the promises you made? All of them?

You stopped buying gifts for me! Those little things made me smile but you stopped doing them! Now my beautiful face can't remember the last time it smiled.

Opening doors became a big deal to you! I never asked you to start but I fell in love with that too. What came over you? Cause being with you now feels like I'm living a lie.

Ohhhh! The worse part of all was when you made it seem you always cooked for me. I had a man to help me when I was tired or sick but I swallowed your lie when I realized you only bought the food from restaurants!

I picked an attitude to frustrate you just to know how you made me feel cause I was tired of complaining and talking! I got soo tired, unwanted and depressed! Depression moved me to eat sooo much and grew fat. But still didn't see anything wrong with what you were doing to me!
Now my heart aches when i see you!

Love, love makes you make difficult promises, they may seem simple and small but giants in their own way!

I worked things out with my husband and I am the voice for women going through what I went through.

Don't stop reminding him of what he is doing wrong! Don't stop praying! Don't stop talking the word!

Things will fall in place with time!

See also WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

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Thursday, 6 July 2017

WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

Farizana Savage July 06, 2017 women

They say women are complicated and don’t really know what they want. Women are said to have long books of complications. Women are complicated but at least they can be seen through easily.

There are so many books and articles on how to understand a woman but few on men. I think men are more complicated than women, which is why there are few solutions on how to understand them.

A man will say he doesn’t want his girlfriend to care too much but has a problem if she tends to be carefree. As a girlfriend, you are the first to say good morning to him and the last person you talk to before sleeping. His need is your need and you always want to be in his good books but then, he complains you care too much. Caring for him might not be an act, so you go through a lot just to not really care again, and now he complains or starts to act up. WHAT DO THEY REALLY WANT?

A man will tell his girlfriend he doesn’t like to be asked too many questions, especially the question “where are you?” but that’s the first question they ask when they call. Most men don’t like questions not for any genuine reason but for the fact that they can’t be consistent and also makes them feel they are being too open and plain with you. His girlfriend stops asking questions and he complains she acts too naive and again carefree. Amazing Creatures right! lol!

WHAT THEY REALLY WANT?

TO FEEL LIKE YOUR HERO

Every man wants to feel like the hero, to save the day. They don’t want to be your Clark Kent but your Superman. Sometimes, give them that opportunity or create that opportunity for him to feel he saved the day.

ACCEPTANCE

Men also need some loving. Because they NEED to feel that when they stack the dishes in the sink like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love them anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind. Unconditional support from a woman is what will snap them out of their boyish behavior and inject them with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept them as they are, who they are, will they want to become someone better.

NOT TO BE LEFT IN THE DARK

Many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat, or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave men in the dark. They don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with them.

THE C-WORD

Effective Communication! Without it, relationships are built on sand. A man wants his partner to communicate directly not give clues. Spell out what you want clearly, don’t beat about the bush or give attitude and expect him to understand. He is not a soothsayer to read your mind. If you want them to want to do the dishes, OK, then tell them. Explain and model how you would like them to communicate back.

For many man, communication is not a speciality. They need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet them at logic, they will match your emotions, hopefully. But they need you to tell them.

TO HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES

Men may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But they really want their partner to have their own life. Really, men want their partners to have their own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course your husband or boyfriend want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like them to be a part of, but they want you to have your own identity.

Because if you have nothing that is yours, the relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces your man to get his own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs, put your relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is his. And together, you’ll ride.

All in all, my advice to all women is: DO EXACTLY WHAT A MAN SAYS YOU SHOULD NOT DO (not the bad behaviours and attitudes, but that cute thing he discourages you from doing). Whatever you do that he complains about, actually gets to him and makes him soft, therefore, he doesn’t want to seem vulnerable. Don’t worry, he will stop complaining.

Tuesday, 4 July 2017

HAPPINESS

Farizana Savage July 04, 2017 relationship

I don't know what you think happiness might mean...
Some people think when you have all that you want or when you laugh or have peace or joy, yeah it isn't bad to think like that...

But I think happiness is when all the people you love, love you back!
Happiness is when you have a family that loves you endlessly!
Happiness is that your smiles brighten up someones day!
Happiness is making someone else as happy as you are!

Life is short, why should you get angry or frown?
Why should you be broken-hearted and wish you never lived?
Life shouldn't be short for anyone!
Live life as it ought to be lived. Love more like love ends tomorrow, be selfless, laugh, jump around, make merry.

I feel the world would have been a better place without malice, hatred, tears, anger, backbiting, gossip, envy among others!

Take a week out and decide not to get angry, hate, fight or all the things that bring your mood down and focus on being happy, kind and most importantly love more.

You might think it's too late for you to have all these good feelings but there is no perfect time than now! Your happiness is right inside of you! Reach out for it! I love you but God loves you more!

See also SHOULD YOU LOOK THROUGH YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND'S PHONE?

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Thursday, 15 June 2017

SHOULD YOU LOOK THROUGH YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND'S PHONE?

Farizana Savage June 15, 2017 snooping

Like, if this sounds familiar:

Funke snooped through her boyfriend’s phone and found something she didn’t like. She’s been obsessing over it for days, wondering whether that EMOJI was really just a friendly one. “Does it look suggestive? Do you think he’s really watching football? Or is he with that girl from work that he sent that EMOJI to?”

First you’re using your girlfriend’s phone to check the scores while she picks out an outfit for dinner. Then you’re scrolling through her texts. Next thing you know, you’re practicing your ninja skills every time she leaves the room—you silently summersault over to her phone at lightning speed, just to see if anything is amiss. Meanwhile, your heart hammers as you listen for her footsteps coming down the hall. Be warned: if she doesn’t get you, the anxiety of getting caught will.

We’re all a little quirky. Our phones have become a diary for our weirdness. We have silly pictures to cheer us up on a bad day, notes in the notebook app, inside jokes with friends, and many more.

Snooping will end you up in learning things about yourself that you didn’t want to know; Remember that time Jimmy really pushed your buttons because he watched Kumkum Bhagya without you? In the heat of the moment you text your best friend a ton of horrible things that you didn’t really mean but had to say—like how he’s a rotten, TV spoiling jerk with no feelings.

Well, unless you want to hear about all of your flaws, you’re better off not snooping.

In the world of smart phones, dating is a whole new game. We text instead of call. We find perfect matches with the swipe of our thumbs. We start and end relationships by pressing “send”.

Where are the boundaries? With the simple press of a button, you have access to everything your loved one does on their phone- every tweet, text, email, and phone call.

Sure, you are curious. But should you peek? YES! or NO!

The truth to a successful relationship is trust. When you start dating someone, you aren’t just trusting them to be physically faithful anymore. We also expect them to refrain from unfaithfulness when we aren’t looking. The central question to dating nowadays is, can you fully trust someone unless you know what they are doing on facebook or who they are texting? There is no concrete answer, but it is certainly an interesting concept to grapple with.

Every couple has their own protocol for what level of communication is appropriate. Some couple hardly question or think about their partner’s texting and online habits. Some couple too feel the need to know exactly where their partner is and who they are speaking to at all times. The capital offense is snooping through one another’s text messages when they are unauthorized to do so.

I believe that the root reason people go through one another’s phones is more than “curiosity.” I think those who feel the need to go through their partner’s phone are doing so because they aren’t entirely convinced their partner is trustworthy. These hunches seem to be overwhelmingly verified once they go through their partner’s phone but shouldn’t a relationship be based off of an underlying level of trust that is strong enough to stop you from going through their messages?

The unfortunate thing about texting is that sometimes fairly innocent conversations can be perceived as far worse than they really are.

Our virtual lives should be kept private. You shouldn’t have to explain why you answered someone’s text or call. Couples end up arguing about random texting conversations that meant nothing. I think invading our partner’s privacy by going through their messages causes far more harm than good. Innocent things cause arguments.

If you find out your partner is lying or cheating, suddenly you are guilty of invading their personal phone which isn’t a small offense either.

All in all, my personal opinion is that you have no grounds, no matter what the situation is, to go through your partner’s phone. If you are overwhelmingly suspicious that something is going on between your partner and someone else, should you really be with that person anyways?

Relationships are about trust. It takes a long time to build this trust, and just a moment to destroy it. Don’t let that moment be you snooping through your loved one’s phone.

As scary as it can be to place your heart in someone’s hands and trust them not to break it, it’s well worth building a strong, trusting relationship. Besides, would you want your significant other to invade your privacy? Not a chance!

Respect each other’s boundaries and build your relationship on a solid foundation of trust.

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Friday, 2 June 2017

SOULMATE VS PARTNER

Farizana Savage June 02, 2017 Soulmate

Am I not funny enough to be with and really, Am I that boring? How do you want me to feel? We have been together for two years! We have made love, we have hated, we have fought, we have loved, we have wished we never crossed path and our hearts wished to stop beating when we kiss.

Through all these, we still love so hard. We never hope to give up anytime soon even when it seems hopeless.

My partner is boring! We only chat a few times in a day, we hardly call each other and our voices are lost in each other’s memory. I wonder what keeps us together?

We hold each other’s heart, our memories run through the mind of our eyes!

The nicely packaged person, too good to be true or even exist, there is the bad side and the good but the good always overshadows the bad, I feel it’s pretence because he is bad as far as I can see, a confused personality. Blind in love that you can’t feel the fire burning too high, can’t even feel the heat. Sometimes in the mood and mostly not in the mood. Anger, fear, bitterness, sweetness, love, all sort of mixed feelings, but we are made for each other.

My soulmate wears a dress of an angel, bright and white as snow. Always smiling and cracking jokes. Seeing each other brings a spark of fulfilment and accomplishment to our world, we play and mostly laugh all the time. Why are we not together? Why I’m I wasting my time with someone who is always serious, no jokes, no laughter.

We are right for each other. We understand each other and the bond we share is sharper than a two- edged sword. Always complimenting each other like the very first time we met. All the good things needed in a parcel. The chemistry is always great.

Not all that glitter is gold. Not all intimacy, connection and chemistry is love.

You are either a partner or a soulmate. One out of a million can be both.

Who are you, A partner or A soulmate?

Who do you prefer to be with, A partner or A soulmate?

Choose carefully…

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SAVAGE RHUB

Monday, 4 June 2018

Crushed Fantasy

Tuesday, 11 July 2017

THE SIMPLE THINGS

Thursday, 6 July 2017

WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP

Tuesday, 4 July 2017

HAPPINESS

Thursday, 15 June 2017

SHOULD YOU LOOK THROUGH YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND'S PHONE?

Friday, 2 June 2017

SOULMATE VS PARTNER

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